How to understand a Long Distance Relationship

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Nearly none of us, I believe, do appreciate distance in a relationship. But love has its own little sacrifices.

If you are in a long-distance relationship from the beginning, since you first met, it's not that hard to survive I think, because you know that you are only waiting for a little bit of time and then you will be reunited and you're gonna live the daily life of a real relationship, every day, every night. But when the distance arrives after you have already lived something together for a while, and when it has to be this way and there is no other clue, then I will admit: it is really TOUGH! 

But still doable ...

Here are some tips I have learned from my own experience and that I am sharing with you.

 ─ 1 First you should be PATIENT ─

Be patient in general, not anxious about life and not stressed about time. Patience is the first step if you wanna accept to live a LDR. Because LDR is no joke, you should be able to wait, even if waiting isn't the funniest thing and absolutely not your cup of tea (because you can be patient but still hate waiting hhh).  But be patient because no matter how long, it won’t last forever anyway.

 ─ 2 TRUE and REAL stuff ─

You should believe in the true love you have together, real feelings and those stuff. It is a second very important thing, as it's essential to believe that what you both are sharing together isn't nothing, that it is pure and strong. This step shows you the reason you are going to be patient about and also the reason you have accepted to deal with distance in the first place.

─ 3 You should have FAITH and TRUST ─

This point completes the previous one. When there is true love, there should be trust between the two lovers. Then you are sure that your partner won't do something with the purpose of hurting you, and cheating won't even be an option.

─ 4 You should UNDERSTAND your partner ─

Women and men don't speak the same language! I read that in a book and it became my rule N°1 when it comes to relationship related issues. Because it's true, this language difference is what makes the two persons face stupid trouble.

Our needs are the same, since we are both humans, but women and men don't have them synchronized, so we easily misunderstand each other and start panicking for no real reason.

If you're a woman, try to understand your man, think more with your brain and try to see the situation from his angle from time to time, because certainly he will have his reasons that explain the behavior you reproach.

If you're a man, try to understand your woman. Remember that she is emotional and needs affection, don't forget to stop for a while just to show and tell her how much you love her and care for her. Because women need to be reassured and feel secure.

Otherwise if both the partners are the same gender, well I have no real idea, but I guess it won't be so different.

 
─ 5 COMMUNICATION, always! ─

Distance may be considered as an obstacle between the two of you, but it should stay only physical. So, a good communication is important since you must keep the connection between you, and always keep in touch!

There's several ways to do that, with smart phones and internet it is a lot much easier. You can call each other every day and talk, chit-chat as if you were in the same room drinking tea together. You can also video call, and do things together at the same time, like cooking or having dinner, or getting ready to sleep... Also sending cute and nice text messages to express how much you miss your beloved is a nice idea too.  It might be just a "good morning" text, enough to immediately draw a smile on his/her face, and powerful enough to brighten the whole day.

─ 6 You should be POSITIVE ─

Don't think of distance negatively, because this won't be helpful anyway. Instead try to see some good in it, be positive and optimistic. Sure, it is unpleasant and unwanted, but you have no clue when this becomes a reality, it would be suitable if you accept it and make the best of it. 

Make it be an experience that will empower your relationship, make it an occasion to prove to each other how true and strong your love is, and that what you have is beyond a stupid distance. 

No matter how far you are from one another, you will love as you have always done, if it isn't more. If you are meant to be together, distance is nothing but a number that won't last forever, there will come a day you'll be done with it and you'll finally get to live the nice sweat relationship you've been seeking for, with the one you love.

Hopefully I've been helpful with those tips I am currently using myself!

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Take care of yourself 

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