How to deal with Toxic People
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Some people are "The toxicity of our city" of our life !
"Somewhere between the sacred silence and sleep"
- SOAD
At least once in your life path, you must have had to deal with a toxic person.
You know, this friend or relative who's always stressing you out, this boyfriend/girlfriend who keeps making you feel down and unconfident, or who is so needy and capricious... what is actually suffocating you.
For a reason or another, they are still making part of your life. It might be your feelings of love
and affection for this person, or the fact that you consider him/her as your
friend, or whatever reason atually that still keeps them right there.
What is certain is that they have bad impact on you, also on your brain and on your emotional balance and feels. They are hurting you in so many levels and our emotional affective side makes us become more patient and hold on with the hope of an upcoming change.
What is certain is that they have bad impact on you, also on your brain and on your emotional balance and feels. They are hurting you in so many levels and our emotional affective side makes us become more patient and hold on with the hope of an upcoming change.
Meanwhile, this is not how things should be done. Life
is stressful itself, we don't really need people in our surrounding to add to
this stress.
Don't think about it for a hundred times, not even
twice, and GET RID OF TOXIC PEOPLE !
(I am not telling
you to be mean or rude, or asking you to become a total selfish bi*** !
All I want you to
understand is that you are getting hurt and you NEED to MAKE IT STOP for
Godsake ! - thank you 😁)
POINT 1: How to spot a
toxic person?
A person can be considerated as toxic simply
when you don't feel really comfortable around her, when her presence brings in
some negative energy and negative vibes.
Those people have a lot in common, here are some ways you
can spot them :
Toxic people are generally [1] manipulative,
and they don't mind using any possible way to get what so ever they want,
including using you and hurting you on the
way. They blame you for their problems, and you feel guilty as a result. Aaaand
scored !
They are also [2] liars, they can lie as
they breath.
A toxic person is most likely to be a [3] drama
queen/king, she can create a whole drama whenever she wants, and be so [4] self-centered thinking that
the world spins around her, and believing she is the only one who needs and
deserves attention and care.
Furthermore, they tend to be [5] jealous and [6] envious sometimes,
they might not be truly happy for you even if they make you believe that, which
adds hypocrisy to the list.
[7] Criticizing and judging is their favorite hobby, they don't stop stating negative opinion about others.
[7] Criticizing and judging is their favorite hobby, they don't stop stating negative opinion about others.
They also don't want to hear about your success
because they're [8] narcissistic, they get mad at you whenever they
want for no reasonable reason, they want to always be the boss,
the ones who tell what to do when and how, and you have no right to say no,
because I said so!
One more thing, they always [9] play the victim and keep blaming others for their own
problems, they don't want to assume their responsibility and be mature for a
while.
Long story short, toxic people are only dragging you
down, not pushing you further. They are making your life miserable, hurting
your feelings and your well-being.
POINT 2: What happens once you get rid of
toxic people?
Now you know a little how to recognize them, let's see
what happens once you kick TP out of your life.
★First of all, you feel lighter! TP used to put
a heavy weight on your shoulders, their actions and reactions were suffocating you and driving you crazy. Now you're a free bird with a free mind all
of a sudden. You are being yourself and enjoying who you truly are.
★You become free of that dependent person, so in return you also feel that you are independant. Being
your own boss, you do whatever you want whenever you want, without someone
blaming you or making you feel guilty when you are not.
★You are more positive and motivated since there is no
one to suck this positive energy out of you and out of your air. You become
more receptive and aspire to listen to yourself carefully from now on.
★Having the courage to get rid of toxic humans makes of
you a mature person, wise and reasonable and not a monster who hates the human
kind.
POINT 3: What stops you until now and what do
you need?
What are you waiting for until now?
What stops you from doing what you should have done
earlier?
★It may be your lack of courage, you don't think you're
ready to make this step yet.
★You are afraid of her reaction, you are afraid of
what you might be feeling once she's out of your life.
★You are scared of change
and aren't ready yourself to get out of your uncomfortable comfort zone.
★What this person represents to you also makes you
struggle in the process of taking this decision, your affection and feelings
for her might have big impact, since they are also the ones giving you strength
and power to be patient a lot more.
But you haven't lost anything if you give your mind a
little peace. You are not mean if you refuse to be abused, manipulated and
hurt. You deserve to feel good, to get empowered and encouraged, to feed your mind the positivity and good stuff and not stress and guilt compilation. You deserve to
be surrounded with people who truly love you and accept you for who you
are.
Get your strength together and listen carefully to
both of your heart and brain (but mostly your brain !!) then you know what you
need to do 😉.
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